Why don't you try asking one of your/his friends to sit him down and explain everything to him. Get them to explain that you didn't mean what you had said and that you really really want to repair your friendship. If after 5 months he still won't listen, then it's not really worth it
Also, if his family still talks to you you could always ask them for advice. They know their son the best, so naturally they'd be the best people to turn to
I really hope it works out for you two.
We've tried many times. I know both sides of the story. It's really hard to understand the whole situation. I keep trying to tell them both it's just a bunch of misscommunication but I'm not sure. I'm trying to stay out of it. They bother are very good friends of mine and I don't want to loose one over the other.
It IS a whole bunch of miscommunication. Obviously you'd know the story better than I do, Robbie, as you have both sides. But from what I have, he thought that she hated him because of what she said, when she actually doesn't
I think writing a letter would be the best option as it came up many times. I find it's easier to get words out on paper. When people read it sinks in more than hearing it spoken. Maybe a friend like Robbie could help you write it & deliver? Lots of luck, I hope things turn out for ya.
I think writing a letter would be the best option as it came up many times. I find it's easier to get words out on paper. When people read it sinks in more than hearing it spoken. Maybe a friend like Robbie could help you write it & deliver? Lots of luck, I hope things turn out for ya.
If I wrote a letter I am pretty sure that it would be breaking some rule or another. Before the rules came into place(before everything got really out of hand) I bought him a bear from build a bear with lillter short and stuff that I though he would like and I wrote him a letter. This letter was a bit before I realized everything that I had done that hurt him and if I could write another letter I would. At this point I have asked one friends for help but I don't really know what is happening with that. I feeel really bad about asking my friends for help because I know that they care about both us. I have wrote things like letters that I would have liked him to read but because of the rules I just destroyed them. If there weren't any rules this would be so much easier.
I can understand what you are saying but I have to be honest if there are specific "rules" in place that you cannot break or are unwilling to break I honestly don't see where there is hope for getting past what sounds like miscommunication as said in previous posts by others. It sounds to me like your only option is to try to find a way within your self to move past your friendship with this person. Chances are it will not be easy and it will probably hurt but if you are unable to approach this person to discuss or make amends there isn't much else you can do. I wish you the best of luck though and hope in the end things will come out on the positive side for all involved.
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Yeah Canadian, miscommunication is here I think. You may ( bubba ) want to just break the rules. He may appreciate it to learn you broke serious rules just to be his friend again. Or he may not, I don't know what kind of person this guy is.
I definety agree that miscommunication is the main reason that all of this is happening. I don't think that he would like me to break the rules to talk to him because he just doesn't seem like he ever wants to talk to me again. I askd my friend to ask him some stuff for me and I hope that he listens and knows that I am sorry. I really hope that this works and that we will be friends again someday.
I just wanted to thank everyone who took the time to read this post and I also wanted to say that I think that I have figured it out. I have decided that I have to try to not stress over it because he is not the same person that I went out with. I will always e grateful for what he did for me but I have to move on in my life. I know that it might be hard but I will get through, Thanks again to everyone who took the time to read this, respond, and help me.
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Lots of luck, I hope things turn out for ya.
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